The Pursuit of Happiness

It’s Sunday today. I don’t know why but suddenly this epiphany knocks me out in the head. It’s about the pursuit of happiness. The thing that seems so simple to have but so hard in the process sometimes.

While I’m lounging doing nothing much, just watching my husband preparing me lunch and my cute white furball dog leaning his head on my palm excited to get a pet, a warm feeling blossoming in my chest.
This is perfect. I feel complete.

I know from society’s standard there’s something still missing. The picture would be more aggreeably perfect if we have kids lounging with us too or just messing around playing with their toys, but this is perfect. It is for me. It already is.

The picture I see from my eye sight, of my husband making me lunch, of my cute dog which loves us like we love it, of our small cozy home, of me lounging enjoying the view, and the warm uplifting feelings I get bursting from my chest, is the kind of picture imprinted well in my memory, my treasure, my kinda’ pursuit of happiness.. 🙂

(Throwback Sunday, Dec’14)

To Trust or Not To Trust My Husband, That Is The BIG Question

Adat #1

Yes I do have a choice whether to trust my husband or not.

Let’s see the impact of each choice now.

If I choose not to trust him, I would :

  1. Be suspicious anytime he went out our door. Whether he’s out for work, or getting the laundry, or buying food. Anywhere. Whenever I cannot see his nose right in front of me, I would feel that he would do something fishy behind my back.
  2. Play detective on him. I would check on his phone, his wallet, his pants, his pockets, his bags or anything that I could check up on to get that ‘evidence’ out, to which I would do secretly since I don’t want him to get clever if he knows.
  3. Investigate him endlessly. Here by means I have to play “good cop bad cop” on him all at once and creating an endless tricky questions, hoping he’ll be trapped to confess, if any.
  4. Make the ‘face’. Every time he walks in I would surely let him know that I am hurt, even without words. I would make him notice that “I know you’re gonna hurt me, hit it already!” by the look of my sour face.
  5. Gather all the broken pieces he made, or if by chance he would break, and be left feeling miserable most of the time.
  6. Be awkward anytime he’s near. Kinda hard to keep up in between the love and hate relationship all the time, isn’t it?
  7. Sink in a hell house. Our house would definitely a horror for us to live in. Yea, how could a cop and a thief living in one roof without trying to get on each others’ neck?

Imagine how HARD that kind of life I have to go through each day if I don’t trust him? So much endless work to do, much isolation, life threatening episodes, no security, no guarantee, and not to mention the rapid growth of my skin wrinkles after so many sobs and pouts I have to make each day. NOT PRETTY.

Ok now, how ‘bout the second option?

If I choose to trust him, then I would :

  1. Believe him. Here by means I believe he would fully aware that this husband and wife bond is not just by the ring on our finger, but more likely by each others’ oath to stay true to each other. It’s the dignity to stay committed no matter what. No one so dignified would screw up that easy, right?
  2. Carefree. Ah, isn’t it beautiful that word is? Care-free. This is what all humans are looking for! To have the freedom not to care!
  3. Live easy. No creating endless questions, or spiraling in suspicions. No homework to do. Who loves homework anyways?
  4. Smile all the time. Of course this happens when you trust someone. Every time you see that person you trust in front of you, the feeling of security and comfort is all you get. Who wouldn’t smile for that?
  5. Feel wonderful. See that glow? Yes, that’s how wonderful the wonderful feeling is! Everything even feels lighter when I feel wonderful.
  6. Be grateful anytime he’s around. Well, I love him, of course it feels great when he’s around.
  7. As if living in heaven. Again, we all know the feeling when we love somebody, right? Guess what, that somebody I love lives with me! I get to meet him everyday! 24/7! Well, it’s heaven indeed.
  8. Have no worry. Am I sure I like to feel worry all the time? When I’m worried my head doesn’t stop chirping it makes me dizzy. When I’m worried it’s hard for me to sleep. When I’m worried my energy is already flushed to even do another useful things. When I’m worried it’s harder to move. When I’m worried I get so mellow as if it’s the end of the world every day. Geez, so much for being worry. NO thanks.
  9. Tone down the unnecessary wrinkles. This is the best part! I can imagine that there’s only those happy wrinkles leaving marks on my skin when I gets old. That’s a real proof of how I had spent my life.

Pheeww..OK, I think I can see clear enough which one to choose now. And if ever my husband broke my trust, then it’ll be HIS LOST anyways. Cos I know, I won’t leave unless I’m ‘forced’ to do so.

Ok my love, I trust you 😉

On Self Meditation

I recently quite into self meditation.. well for the last few months to be exact.

An amazing recovery facilitation taught me at first, and turns out it helps me so far, given the fact that I have to deal with myself and the situations around me everyday.

There I learn that ” nobody else could really help you, except yourself ” and more importantly, we definitely must take care and embrace ourselves first, before we do that for others. Well, those really getting more and more to my sense cos how could you give so much if yourself is ’empty’ ? What to give out then?

I can finally see that if I depend on anyone else to make me happy, somewhere along the way I would be disappointed. Cos relying on anyone else is limited and sometimes, it would not meet our needs. But if I depend on me on that, it would be abundant! Cos I’m the only one who really knows about me, what I want and what I need, any time. I know how to make myself happy 🙂

Then, going back about self meditation, I believe it heals me. At least it gives me the time to let myself relax, shutting my brain (and all the ‘chatty’ inside), focus on the guidance and just breathe deep, in full awareness.

Plus, since I’m preparing myself to be pregnant and kinda in this ‘journey’ to reconnect with myself ‘mind body and soul’, here I share one of my favorite self meditation video from Youtube.

This is part of my daytime routine now, looking up for new positive affirmations or relaxing tunes that would soothe me down throughout the day.

I help me, and that’s what matters 😀

” Give out, then you’ll receive more”

Days in Creation

There are days when all feels nothing

That all you want to do is just run sprinting, skip it as far behind

Even to breathe is just choking to your lung

We all knows how terrifying those days are

“The nightmares are in our brains”

Then there are days that gets so sweet

Too sweet that you sure it’s gonna be a part of an evil scheme

But it’s not

It’s just that, sweet

We often amazed by how funny days could be, each day

One day you’re on the top of the world

And the other, just plainly sucks

To me, those goods and bad is just part of my own creation

Creation of the mind I say

I can sit around all day feeling unworthy,

or I can still sit around and start piling the worth of it all

I choose

Even to the most sucks part of my life

When I’m sure there’s gonna be a real hard lesson that I could take

And that’s gonna be rainbow after the rain

Then I could, dance..and feels most sexy in the rain!

LOL!

Live it up! Embrace all those days! It’s ours to make 😉