Life doesn’t always go as you expected, it won’t.
I know how us human could be devastated just to hear that notion. How could that be?
How could those words makes you feel as if you’re the most pessimist person in the world, that you’re just miserable, the way you see such a life with no hope?
Hmm…this is where I think I got it wrong.
Expectation is not the same with Hope.
Expectation = A strong belief that something will happen or be the case ; A belief that someone will or should achieve something ; One’s prospects of inheritance
Hope = A feeling of desire for a particular thing to happen ; A person or thing that may help or save someone ; Grounds for believing that something good may happen ; A feeling of trust
(taken from Oxford Dictionaries, link : http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/expectation and here : http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/hope
When I expect something, even for the smallest thing, more likely I will be disappointed. While hope to me is just proposing for something positive, and with a positive conscious. So the end result will definitely be different.
I know I’m somewhere in between those two state of mind. My mind can get ‘tricky’ considering the outcome.
So let me make myself clear. To make a clearer view, I have to note down all the implication, my ‘tree-of-mind’ which will lead to my action and reaction, prejudice or neutral :
For instance, I’m expecting my husband to treat me better.
Since I’m expecting = a belief that someone will or should achieve something (in this case = my husband), based on One’s prospects of inheritance (in this case = me, my point of view) then I’m the one who “predict” or “setting goals of achievements” to which set the values that is acceptable in my qualification list for the word “better”.
Hmm.. then it sounds like I be the “judge” to his value, almost the same like playing God here, don’t you think?
Then how if I say “I hope my husband to treat me better” ?
I hope = A feeling of desire for a particular thing to happen ; A person (my husband) or thing that may help or save someone (me) ; Grounds for believing that something good may happen ; A feeling of trust.
Whether I or my husband be the subject or the object mentioned above, both share the take-and-give notion which sounded more sincere and positive for both sides.
I like the second notion better, so I’ll be more careful in expressing my words and thoughts upon matters.
As a human being, all we can do is try and hope for the better outcome. So if we don’t say it right or set the right mind to it, it might as well be a misleading end result, don’t you think?